strong relationship 'green flags' according to an engagement and wedding ring expert

As a bespoke jewellery expert at Jessica Flinn, I've had the privilege of being a part of many special moments in people's lives. Whether it's helping couples choose the perfect ring or witnessing a romantic proposal, I've learned a lot about what makes a relationship strong.

I always look for "question-free moments" when couples come to our showroom. These are moments when they feel so confident about the budget and type of ring they want, that they don't even need to say it out loud. You can tell a couple has strong communication and a shared understanding of what the other person wants, when they can express how they feel with just a look or their body language. This is a crucial factor in any relationship, and it is evident in the way couples interact when choosing their engagement ring.

Something I've always believed is a sign of a strong relationship is being completely comfortable with one another. Couples who are comfortable proposing in their happy place, wherever that may be, even if it's not what people expect. It could be at home in your PJs, at your favourite restaurant, or at your favourite dog walking spot. When you trust one another completely and understand your partner, that's what makes your proposal special.

Another 'green flag' of mine is being fully invested in the process of choosing an engagement or wedding ring, and planning your wedding and future together. These are huge life events, and it's important to have open communication and be on the same page. Both partners should feel supported, and should not feel like they're doing all the work. It takes two to tango as they say! If one partner isn't interested in being involved in the process, this could indicate a lack of communication or commitment to the relationship.

A really important part of a relationship is doing what works for you, and not feeling pressured to do things in a certain way or by a certain time. Over 30 and not married yet? Who cares?! Don't want kids yet, that's okay too. Had kids first before you tie the knot? Amazing! It doesn't matter what order you do things in or how you do them, if you're riding the ups and downs of life together and stumbling your way through, that's fine by me.

Everyone is wonderfully unique, and so is your relationship, do things your way and don't let anyone tell you otherwise! What is right for you may not be for others, and that's the beauty of working in the jewellery industry, we get to see it all!

The pillars of a strong relationship are communication, mutual understanding and commitment to the wonderful life you plan on making together. Man, woman, non-binary, gay, straight, queer, everyone is welcome to celebrate their love with us. The couples that come through our doors (and our email inboxes!) are absolutely amazing, and we love seeing how happy they are together. We're lucky to be a part of their journey, and we hope to part of many many more.

Written by Jessica Flinn-Allen, CEO of Jessica Flinn Fine Jewellery